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how 2 survive unemployment 101
Aug. 1st, 2023 03:44 pmso, i still have no idea how this site works, but i lost my job in june and i've been spending a lot of time thinking about how well i'm coping, considering. (the considerations are that i lost my job in a way that was definitely in bad faith and possibly illegal, so i am doing probably worse than just your average person who got fired.)
and basically the only reason i'm not even more depressed than i currently am (i do really badly without a regular routine, a consistent reason to leave my apartment, and the knowledge that i can pay my bills) is because i allow myself little treats sometimes. i'm scrambling around trying to figure out how to save money because my employment prospects aren't great. i'm considering dropping out of grad school. but i go out of my way to get myself something at the grocery store that makes me happy.
this probably stems from when i was dating my ex and was profoundly unhappy (for reasons unrelated to why my life sucks rn, it was a bad relationship, i was being actively isolated by my ex, and she didn't pay for almost anything) and the only purchases that were "for me" that i could actually justify was getting myself the nice stuff at the grocery store that i'd always wanted to try but my parents said no to back when i was living at home and not doing my own grocery shopping. so like, an entire tub of ice cream that is just for me. weird fruit juice. i never use cash, but i had a $10 in my wallet the other day and stopped for gelato and it fixed me a little bit.
i mean don't let this fool you into thinking that i'm doing great i'm very much doing terribly. but also. sometimes it's nice to have little treats and that's what makes life bearable. :)
and basically the only reason i'm not even more depressed than i currently am (i do really badly without a regular routine, a consistent reason to leave my apartment, and the knowledge that i can pay my bills) is because i allow myself little treats sometimes. i'm scrambling around trying to figure out how to save money because my employment prospects aren't great. i'm considering dropping out of grad school. but i go out of my way to get myself something at the grocery store that makes me happy.
this probably stems from when i was dating my ex and was profoundly unhappy (for reasons unrelated to why my life sucks rn, it was a bad relationship, i was being actively isolated by my ex, and she didn't pay for almost anything) and the only purchases that were "for me" that i could actually justify was getting myself the nice stuff at the grocery store that i'd always wanted to try but my parents said no to back when i was living at home and not doing my own grocery shopping. so like, an entire tub of ice cream that is just for me. weird fruit juice. i never use cash, but i had a $10 in my wallet the other day and stopped for gelato and it fixed me a little bit.
i mean don't let this fool you into thinking that i'm doing great i'm very much doing terribly. but also. sometimes it's nice to have little treats and that's what makes life bearable. :)
